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Posted On 09/03/2008 18:23:39
Everything I need to know about life, I learned from Noah's Ark
One : Don't miss the boat.
Two : Remember that we are all in the same boat.
Three : Plan ahead. It wasn't raining when Noah built the Ark.
Four : Stay fit When you're 600 years old,
someone may ask you to do something really big.
Five : Don't listen to critics; just get on with the job that needs to be done.
Six : Build your future on high ground.
Seven : For safety's sake, travel in pairs.
Eight : Speed isn't always an advantage. The snails were on board with the cheetahs.
Nine : When you're stressed, float a while.
Ten : Remember, the Ark was built by amateurs; the Titanic by professionals.
Eleven : No matter the storm, when you are with God,
&nb sp; there's always a rainbow waiting...
I am at a cross roads in my life. For the past 14 yrs its just been me and my girls, I dated a little bit right after my divorce but I wasnt comfortable. Now in the last few weeks I find myself talking to a gentleman that is in my ward. Last night we were on the phone for over 5 hrs, just talking about life and things that we have done. Talking about how the church and the gosspil have changes and saves your lives from the road of distruction that we were both living before he was baptisted and before I woke up and came back from beging inactive. We spent over 2 hrs just talking about Joesph Smith and Nauvoo. We talked about which temples we have vistied, and which ones we would like to go too. This wasnt the first time that we talked for so many hrs but last nite was the longest. We see each other at least 2 times at week at church and usually for lunch in the middle of the week.
My oldest daughter is 17 she says that its ok but that the next time I am on the phone that long with someone that she is going to take my phone privleges away...lol My daughters know the man from church but I am not sure on how to go that next step and acutally go out on a date with him.
It feels so weird to get that butterfly feeling when you know that you will see each other at church or out and about in public. I am scared that I will ruin a good friendship if we start dating. I am scared that my girls even though they say its about time will be upset with me.
The best thing about him is that he is non judgemental when it comes to my youngest and her bipolar as he is a counsler to homeless adults with bipolar. He keeps saying that we will take this on a very slow terms so that she will be able to deal with the changes that are happening. As this year is going to be the year of many changes. Her sister is graduating from high school and moving away for college, I am in the middle of a job change, she is in 8th grade.
Even if nothing happens with this realtionship I will at least know that I haave made a true friend.
I never thought i would see the day but it has happend me and my ex husband after beging divorced for 14 yrs acutally shared a good laugh. In the past we had never been able to speak to one another with out getting hateful. But a few weeks ago he got remarried for the 3rd time this time to a girl almost 20 yrs younger then him. Anyways our oldest daughter called from the wedding laughing because my ex picked the same song to dance to with his bride as he did for the other ex wife. My daughter put her father on the phone and I was giving him a hard time about loosing his mind, and he agreed that its the old age. He also thanked me for raising our daughters to be kind and thoughtful and loving young women. He was laughing at our oldest she is 16 because some boys had asked her out and she was very honest and open with them that unless they shared her vaules and beliefs that they shouldnt waste their time. He also said that he may not be LDS (catholic) but he agreed with the morals and values that the church and I are teaching our daughters.
just had to share a rare and happy moment between me and my ex.....LOL
I went and spoke with my bishop today, I explained to him how upset and disappointed I am in the bishopric,in how they have handled my situtation with my daughter. When he asked what I meant I explained that his making desciuns about my daughter and family by what he has heard from other BUT never coming to me and asking what was going on. His reply was he is a busy man and that I was on the list to be seen NEXT MONTH ALL this started back in DECMEMBER of 2007. I explained to him that as a single parent with out the priesthood in the house and a invisble hometeacher who else was I suppose to come too. I had spoken to the Stake president last nite and he asked me to try and talk to the bhishop 1 more time and if things didnt get any better then he would come down and have a meeting with me and the bishop. I am hoping and praying that this meeting that we had this AM is going to help and that the bishop and his cousnlors will maybe be more understanding of the trails that my family is having to face every day with a daughter with Bipolar. My bishop is young his oldest it just turning 12 in November. I had to keep reminding him that yes there is a need for my daughter to be on the medicine and that he and other should not talk about her medicine around her if they have questions about it then they should come and see me or email me. I at least recieved sacrement today for the first time in 2months and it felt wonderful to be able to do that. I didnt sit in the chapel but out in the hall but still I was able to feel the spirt there and it truely helped me in helping talk to the bishop so that I was able to get my point acrossed with out sounding like a idiot. The bishop agreed since the Elder Qurom hasnt been able to find me a home teacher then the High preist will now be in charge as my home teacher. Elders qurom response when I asked about a home teacher back in may was you will get one when you get one sometime after the summer.
All I can say I am so ever thankful and grateful that I know that the church is true and that its not the men in the church that make the church but its our wonderful Savior Jesus Christ.
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Several months ago I posted a blog talking about the trials that my family had been going through since my youngest daughter(13) was diagnosed with Bipolar. 2 months ago she ran away and I was luck to find her at a non ex friend of the families house. My daughter was in a manic stage and was hearing voices that was telling her that we (her family) were going to smash her face in and hurt her. She ran to these so called friends house who I later found out had told her that she didnt need to take her medicine and that there was nothing wrong with her. When I found my daughter at their house I told my daughter to get in the call and she refused and the ex friend called the sherriff dep saying that i was theartening bodily harm to my daughter. The sheriff showed up and I explained to them I have sole custody of my daughter, the names of her doctors ,her diagnoses and what meds she is on. The sheriff expalined to me that I wasnt in trouble but because my daughter had ran away they had to take her into partial custody and for me to come and get her from the sheriffs dep in a hr. I went home and called my brother in law and my mother who came to the sheriffs dep with me. While I was waiting for them I called the 2nd couslor in the bishpric since the bishop was out of town. His wife explained that he was already art work so she called the other couslor his reply to this problem "oh well its up to the courts now" To this day I have yet to hear anything from anyone in the bishpric or the elders qurom. I contacted the elders qurom president the next day to tell him I needed a new home teacher as the one I had was no longer welcomed into my house(ex friends my daughter ran to). He emailed me back and said I would get a new home teacher at the end of the summer.
I ran into a friend from church and she explained that since its been 8 weeks since I have been to church do to work and caring for my daughter that me and my family have been put on the inactive list. I was already struggling to go to this ward as it is the only one with in 45 miles. Now that all this has happened to my family I feel that the finnaly have an excuse not to have contact with me or my daughters. I broke down and wrote a letter to my stake president telling him everything with dates and times. I also explained to him that I know the church is true but the men who are in charge of the ward i live in make it near impossible for me or other single parents to feel welcome.
My oldest daughter (16) asked that she be able to home school seminary because she cant stand the way the other kids talk about her sister. No one was told expect the bishop and the young womens leaders so someone had to tell the kids. She told me the other day that she will be glad when she graduates and goes away to college were she can be in a singles ward were no one knows her sister. This saddens me but at the same time I am glad to know that she also has a strong testamony and wont allow the church to fall to the wayside
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Here I sit another fun filled Saturday preparing for Sunday and what domy lovely Daughters go and do they CLEAN their room and I mean CLEAN. MOVED the beds the whole nine yards. I know I should be happy but now I cant find my laundry room any more since I guess in their minds dirty clothes were suppose to be stored under their bed and she would come wash them! Kinda like the tooth fairy. I think this laundry fairy is going to go the bank buy 2 rolls of quarters and 2 bottles of laundry soap and place them under thier pillows. I mean come on 13 and 16 you would think that they would know better then this, but or as my mom said laughing when I called her to complain about this she said something about "teenagers barley know how to eat, breath, spend money and sleep! how do you think they are going to remember to put the dirty clothes in the hamper?" At least these are the small problems to deal with compared to some of the other things we have had to face here at home. Laundry is just laundry but I will always love my Daughters
Ok I am in situtation that dont know what to do or whom to turn to ,I am a single mother of 2 daughters 16 and 13. Let me first explain, last summer 2007 my 13yr old daughter was admitted into the hospital with a serious infection in her leg that turned into staph and had the doctors worried that she was going spetic. She had to spend 14 days in the hospital for iv therapy with stirct bed rest and then another 2 weeks at home on the couch.Needles to say with all the work I had to miss staying with her at the hospital i had to go and ask my Bishop for help he agreed to help but wanted to know WHY I wasnt at work couldnt any of the sisters from relief society sit with her. I had to explain that staph was very contaguis and that the dr didnt want any one either pregant or with small children in her room. When you look at my ward that is 85% and the others are students. After explained this to him he said he understood, his own wife was pregant and had told him the same thing. Then last fall I went to my bishop for guidance on what I could do to get better control of my 13yr old daughter. At that time she was screaming and yelling and wouldnt listen to me at all. His advice at the time was to take her dessert away (we DONOT eat dessert in this house ). Then the week before christmas this last year2007 our family was hit with a really big blow my 13 yr old daughter was diagnosed with having Bipolar after she tried to hurt herself. The Bishop was called the night all this happend and I didnt see or hear from him untill 4 days later. At that time I had to ask for some assitance since I had missed so much work taking her back and forth to the doctors and to the hospital. He said that he would help But told me that I needed to figure out what I did that caused my daughter to be bipolar.(bipolar is a chemical brain imblance only thing I did was give birth to her and love her with all my heart) He never once and visited her while she was in the hospital for that week nor has he spoken to her at all since she has been back home. It is hard to go to church every week and see that man that I have sustained when I dont feel any thing for him but bitterness. ward confrence is in a week then we have stake confrence do I go and once again sustain this man or do I stay at home? I know that he has this calling for me to either learn something or for him to learn from us, but it is still harrd to have respect for him when he thinks mental illness is caused by the parents. Thank goodness that I know that the church is true or other wise I think this whole mess would have been enough for me to turn my back on the church. I am willing to hear from anyone with thought and ideas on what i should do.
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