01/09/2013 21:07:46

Hi Zips! How are you? What's been up lately? How are the family and what's up with recent good books?

11/10/2012 00:15:01

Thank you for you kind posts on my page. When I first signed up, I used to check in and there was nothing... then I moved on. I recently received an invite to join a mental health group on lds.net which led me back to my home page and I saw your notes. I empathize with placing your mother-in-law in a nursing home. I worked as a care aid in one for 6 years. I just quit less than 2 months ago. My father-in-law was in a care home with Alzheimers 10 years ago. Care sure has come a long way since then. Merry Christmas

11/03/2012 00:50:19

zippy_do46 wrote: We had to put my mother-n-law in the Nursing Home this week. She has already fallen after only 3 days. I had to do it though. I am just so tired Pam. She had fallen 2 times in one week here at the house. She would not use her walker or wheelchair. She said she did not need it. Alzheimer is the pits. My hubby's one hang up was that he did not want to put his mother in to die. He wanted her to die at home. One of the nurses had the right words. She told him that he needed to look at it in another way. She told him that his mother had come here to live the rest of her life, and not to die here. I think that really did help him. My girls also went to bat and told him that I was at my ropes end. I was more then I ever thought.

Alzheimers is such a difficult disease. It affects everyone around, not just the person who has it. My dad had it and my mom tried to take care of him by herself for 5 years. She finally just couldn't do it anymore and we had to put him in a facility. Unfortunately he died 1 week after placing him there. And not from the Alzheimers.

09/16/2012 18:09:03

Hi Zippy! Great to hear from you and to hear you are doing fine. What can you tell me about the 7 ft tree in your house and the project(s) you are being talked into? Let's see what am I reading now? I, as usual, have been reading a variety of things. I've read some philosophy, Christian theology (that I really enjoyed), health books, social justice (which was too basic), education, and awaiting another book about dementia to get here soon. I have not been feeling too well lately as it is getting difficult for me to function many times but I do what I can. My fam. is great. They are lots of fun, amazing and I love to be with them. It is started to get a little chilly around here which makes me think of all the things I need help getting done around the house before winter hits. I look forward to hearing from you. :)

07/21/2012 17:39:48

Hi Zips,

How have you been? Long time not "see." I hope u are well. :)

01/01/2012 12:25:59

Hello Zippy! Happy New Year! I hope all is well with you

08/01/2011 22:34:51

Hi Zippy,
Nothing but the quotes came trough in the last message on my page. Just wanted to give you a heads up. :)

07/31/2011 16:57:34

zippy_do46 wrote: Dr T, How are you doing? I hope all is well with you and yours. I love the pictures of the children. You have some beautiful children. Nothing like the laughter of a child to bring back the laughter in our hearts. Zippy

Hi Zips :)

Well I've been up and down. It seems like that's how M.S. goes. The kids have been great. My wife has been as a homeschooling conf. all weekend and will be home soon. The kids had a great time sleeping in the clubhouse last night and I was up late reading Inkspell, book two of the Inkheart tril. I'm hungry and need to make some dinner. Thank you for the compliment. You're correct-that is the most amazing sound ever. :) How are you?

07/13/2011 22:33:51

Hi Zip! How have you been and where have you been lately?

05/30/2011 23:15:03

zippy_do46 wrote: Gargantuan wrote: How are you Zippy?  I hope that your Memorial Day events are memorable and that you and yours have a blessed time together.  Blesings, Gar I am doig fine, Gar. I was thinking of you the other day. I am sorry to hear another death for you and yours. Sometimes there times in our lives when it seems everyone is making that journey home to Heavenly Father. The hard is letting them go and knowing there will be a time we will not see them. Take care Gar. My prayers are with you and yours. My mother-n-law is starting to have problems standing, now. I am sure she will be in a wheel chair soon for her own safety. The problem is that she forgets she can not do. I found her up making her bed this morning. She was getting mad because she was having trouble making the bed. She told me she had to get to work and get the bread made. I started makng her bed and pulled back the bed and helped her change clothes. I then talked her into sitting on the edge of the bed while we talked about things. I talked about things that have happened in the last few years. She told me some people think her daughter is dead. She told me she is just hiding that is the reason people did not see her any more. I talked about the colors she picked for her room in the house we are redoing. I told her the green she picked will go very nice with the pink and white. She told me she wanted it bright. I smiled and told her it is very bright. (Kelly green) Sometimes it takes time to get her away from subjects of death and subjects that make her mad. It is getting harder and harder to do. Sometimes I listen and I hear her talking to those who are gone. It seems she s staying longer and longer in times past. She told my hubby that her son was taking care of her. He told her that he was her son. She told him he was too old to be her son. After he gave her meds and talked to her a little bit more about them both getting old he left the room with tears in his eyes. "She didn't know me", was all he could say. You know Gar going through this with her has made me realize more then ever how I spend my time with those around me. I listen more to those around me. I am not so quiet when I see another in pain or confusion. I step forward and try to help. I smile more, give hugs and pats on the shoulder to those around me. I think sometimes a pat on the hand makes the diffrence. Just a human touch to let some one know that they are not alone in this world. Serving others has helped me as much as I see it has helped you.  Again my prayers are with you and thanks  for letting me vent. Zippy

There is a noble purpose growing out of the selfless acts you give to your mother in law.  Regardless of her experiences now, she will continue to log within her mind the experiences that God wants her to have. 

When you and your husband show her extended kindness, love and understanding you are serving God in His great purpose for her.  He is also blessing you both with greater knowledge, compassion and love as she endures her trial of living now.  You both are learning more about the great gifts a patience, ingenuity, acceptance and love.  You are doing a great work with her.  I am grateful to know you both.  Gar